Why We Don’t Dare To Want

There is a reason you do not want to want things. There is a reason you constantly try to talk yourself out of your wanting and negotiate your wants down to the bare minimum.

There is a reason you only dare to hope for just enough to get by, and maybe a teeny tiny bit extra.

There is a reason you tell yourself you don’t really need all that. And you don’t really want all that, and that it won’t make you happy anyway.

There is a reason you tell yourself that money and things are all evil, and they corrupt people and ruin peoples lives anyway.

There is a reason you tell yourself that people who have what you want are just stressed out messes, or don’t have good relationships, or will get sick, or other kinds of hardships, or whatever it is you tell yourself.

And that reason is: that you believe that ‘wanting’ hurts.

That ‘wanting’ is bad, because it causes people hurt.

And you have a GOOD REASON for believing that. Because maybe you SAW and experienced how people you love wanted things, and didn’t get them, and hurt.

That was real. It was real for you, and you must honor it and give yourself space to grieve it.

Part of you believes that your wanting can only end the same way. So you do not dare to…