Spoiled, Selfish, Rich, Ungrateful Bitch.

If you are anything like me, you’ve probably been avoiding ever being called anything remotely like this your entire life. And if you are anything like me, these words and the people and imagery associated with them are utterly REPELLENT (extra strength 100% DEET).

In my book, these things were pretty much the WORST things you could be. The only thing worse someone could say would be, evil murderer. But honestly, it was almost just as bad.

So I avoided these terms like the plague and avoided doing or being seen in ANY way that might cause people to think or say this about me. And since I didn’t come from money, that was really easy to do.

I was raised in a lower-middle-class family, but my grandparents on both sides, and my parents as children, were all raised in varying levels of extreme poverty. We were rich in love, but not in money. And this was a point of pride.

We had that wonderful phrase to remind us that we always had what was most important — in SPADES, and I am so grateful for that.

The trouble though, is my little child mind twisted that into a belief that I could EITHER have love or have money, but not both, and that money would RUIN love. So when I set out to radically change my money story and business income in my late 30’s (because I needed to, like a…